Honesty and maturity are the most open ways to reject someone without hurting them. In this article we will discuss some useful tips.
Have you ever found that someone really loves you but you do not feel the same about them? This is unfortunately very common, especially in shared spaces like the office, and this can be very uncomfortable. In this article, we will give you some tips for rejecting someone.
You may not be attracted to this person’s physical, mental, or emotional attributes, or perhaps you are not just looking for a partner? But in any case, you will have to let them down.
But how can you reject someone without hurting him?
In this article we will share valuable tips.
If this person is trying to reach you and you have no interest, try to avoid mowing them with your actions or words. Try to stay balanced.
We all want affection and love, but for that we must respect a universal maxim: treat others as you want to be treated.
Do not give them false hopes. Tell them exactly how you feel and what you want, but be absolutely sure of yourself. Ideally, you do not want to reject someone if you start feeling something in the future when it’s too late.
Talk about it before asking you to go out with an appointment or to confess how they feel. If you do not, you will be stuck in a confusing and uncomfortable situation where you could lose a friend, which nobody wants. It’s not worth losing friends for things like that.
Your explanation must be supplemented by facts. Be consistent with the things you say and the way you act. If you say you do not want a relationship and then they see you with someone else, you’re just going to upset them and that can affect your reputation.
The best way to be honest with them is to give an example that involves another person. This will distract their attention so that they can better understand your position.
If you are a close friend, avoid using the phrase “at the moment” as this may leave them waiting and could hurt them, especially if you are sure this will not happen.
Phrases such as “I’m really happy to be just a friend” leave no room for doubt and they will understand that they are in the zone of friends and will stay there.
Location and time
Try to find a quiet space where you can both be comfortable, like a nearby park or something. If you do not know where to find the right place, ask where they want to go.
Try to make sure you do not have to rush and have no interruptions. These kinds of conversations are worthy of time and space to avoid misunderstandings and for you to come to a positive conclusion for both people.
Never dismiss someone by phone, chat, or email. It’s pretty loose and not very serious. Talk to them in person so that your message is reinforced by your gestures, your tone of voice and your expressions. Try to make sure that you look relaxed and friendly.
Do not add additional information, words or justifications. Any additional details you add once you say “no” will simply be used against you to prolong the discussion and be more insistent.
Remember your rights
Reversing someone is undoubtedly something you have to deal with subtly but on which you must also be firm.
To help you in this task, keep these additional considerations in mind:
You have the right to refuse any offer they could make.
Saying “no” is not a sign of egoism, but stability and self-respect.
Be vigilant against manipulation.
Explain your reasons but avoid excuses. You do not need to give.
Be brief. It will not take away from your qualities as a person. If anything, it adds to them.